Today is one of those days...

While we've been on this journey, I've tried my best to stay positive, strong, supportive, and open. I'm realistic --  not too optimistic and not too pessimistic. I try to focus on making sure everyone else is okay, especially the boys.

 

There are days, though. There are days when I just feel like shit - to put it bluntly, honestly. There are days I want to just quit, pack up, and have it all disappear. There are days I'm selfish and ask why. There are days when I'm mad... then sad... then mad again. There are days when the "I know it could be worse" and "God doesn't give me more than I can handle" phrases don't cut it.

 

And, I'm not sorry to admit it...

 

Today is one of those days.

 

Today, I'm not "feeling it" -- It's been one call after another (yesterday and today), and I just don't want to do anything.

 

Friends, I'm sorry I've been MIA. Family, I'm sorry I'm grouchy. I hope you can forgive me and ignore me. I'll be fine tomorrow. Today, though, I'm done. I couldn't even get creative enough to blog, so I'm copying the email I sent to some of you earlier today.

 

Here it is:

 

Many of you know we were waiting for the results of the sleep study. We got a call from Graden’s Pulmonologist early this afternoon with the results. It wasn’t good; in fact, they said it was worse than they anticipated. Graden had several “episodes” throughout the night - they even saw other abnormalities than what they were looking for.

 

We are waiting for a call for a CPAP machine (continuous positive airway pressure);  it has a mask that he will have to wear every night while he sleeps due to the lapses in his breathing. The machine will help regulate his breathing and control the pressure in his breaths. (For more information on Central Sleep Apnea, click here.)

 

She did say this would be something he would have to deal with forever.

 

It could be a side effect from his malformation, but it is more likely that he has developed this because of all his respiratory issues/trauma.

 

After therapy, I called his doctor at Riley. The Neurosurgeon said she wants to keep our appointment April 5th to allow time for the remaining test results. Then, she can decide if surgery will help these side effects; however, she may be leaning away from surgery until we can get more information -- these issues may really be because of his respiratory trauma, in which case, surgery won’t be beneficial. At this point, the risks may outweigh the results...

 

More side effects from his Chiari Malformation are appearing and seem to be strengthening as his brain grows. We knew this would be the case, but it is proving to be more challenging than we expected.

 

Additionally, his swallow therapy has been extended through September; today, they told us they heard some improvements. One small step, but we will take it.

 

On another note, Graden will be having a 24-hour EEG next Tuesday at Lutheran; Graden’s Neurologist is concerned about the increase in seizure activity in his brain. We have seen this increase during other tests, but we will be able to specifically focus on this during the EEG. At this point, this is a serious concern... seizures and breathing concerns are a bad combination, especially considering the growth and changes Graden has experienced.

 

We know this can be difficult to read and imagine. Graden is our ornery, athletic comedian and we joke that you cannot tell he’s “sick,” but please know that just because you don’t see it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. I am thankful that I have always been the one to see these issues (seizures, etc.), but now, Phil and others are experiencing it as well. I certainly hope you don’t have to witness his “moments” and appreciate that you all continuously think of, pray for, and send love to our little man. As we continue this path, as scared as we are for Graden, he is still “living normally” and is happy as can be! Our wish is that through this all he is able to be happy, even if it means he won’t be “living normally.”

 

Love you.